For the past year I have been spending my afternoons writing a series of essays for the Empath who wants to improve her life and her relationships.  Naturally, this is a huge topic, and I find myself with many personal and client stories to report.  Here are a few of the essay topics to be included in the book.  If you have a topic or a question that you'd like to see answered, please don't hesitate to email me.  I will make the essays available as e-downloads for a small fee as soon as they are finished.  Eventually they will all appear in a softcover book.  In the meantime, enjoy the free essays on the previous page.

Thanks so much!

Elaine

These essays will be available only through the end of the yearr

Healing Journey of the Empath

Elaine La Joie

updated October 2009

Empathy Essays:

The Classic Empath, including: Understanding the Pitfalls of the Classic Empath, The Giving Persona, The Sensitive Scientist, The Emotionally Dissociated Hero or Anti-Empath, and the Empathic Hero.  6 page pdf file.  Cost: $2.  added Mar 18th

The Peacemaker and the Empath: How the Empath relates to the Peacemaker, who avoids conflict and suppresses anger, in order to keep the peace.  This is a common relationship for Classic Empaths. 2pg pdf file. Cost $1 added March 24th

The Empath and Romance: how infatuation and romance can become a block to the Empath's embracing her creativity. 2pg. pdf file.  Cost $1  added March 24th

The Empath and the Pedestal: how our original wounds can cause the Empath to become stuck in a cycle of putting others on pedestals. 3pgs Cost $1.  added Mar. 24

The Empath and Authenticity:  how the Empath must learn that authenticity must not come at the expense of protection of the self and good boundaries with others.   3pgs Cost $1. added July 27th.

Buy all the Above Empathy Essays: Separately $6,  together $4. 16 pages.

Drama Triangle Essays:

Introduction to the Drama Triangle, a 4 page introduction to the Drama Triangle and each of the Archetypal Roles:  Cost: $1. added Mar 18th

Creating safe containers for your family, How to step out of Drama and create a strong marriage container  3 pgs. Cost: $1 added Mar 18th

Victim posing as a Spiritual Seeker, A description of the Victim Archetype commonly found in spiritual circles. 3pgs Cost: $1 added Mar 18th

The Guilt Tripping Rescuer, A description of the Rescuer tactic of Guilt Tripping. 2 pgs. Cost: $1 added Mar 18th

The Righteous Bully, A description of a very dangerous and angry Bully. 3 pgs. Cost: $1 added Mar 18th

Victim as Emotional Manipulator, A description of a Victim that needs another to feel good about the self. 2 pgs. Cost: $1 added Mar 18th

The Power of the Victim Story: A description on how Mythic Story can take over our lives, even if the Story is not literally true. 2pgs. Cost $1. added April 1st

Empath as Bully:  When the Empath becomes overwhelmed, she can turn into a Bully unintentionally and invite attacks. 2pgs. Cost $1. added July 25th.

Buy All the above Drama Triangle Essays: Separately $8, Together $5, 18 pages

Relationship Essays:

Shedding Relationships:  Sometimes it is necessary to let old relationships go to make room for new relationships.  2 pgs. Cost $1 added March 31st

Family System Reinforcement: Breaking away from our Family System can be a challenge. How we can have a destiny instead of the family fate. 2pgs.  Cost $1.  added July 23rd.

Healing Process/Soul's Journey Essays:

The Internal Bully and Healing Severe Abuse:  If we've been victims of severe abuse, we can become stymied by our own Internal Bully when we learn to step into power. 2 pgs. Cost $1. added July 23rd

Living from Center--Integrity and Relationships:  When we co-create with Spirit, we're given the opportunity to straighten out our relationships.  Handling this time with Integrity is essential. 3 pgs. Cost $1. added July 23rd

Making Death our Ally:  When we follow our Soul's Calling, we come face to face with Ego Death.  The challenge is making Death our Ally so we can co-create effectively with Spirit.  2pgs. Cost $1. added July 23rd

The DoubleBind:  How we can unravel double binds by undoing the conflicting beliefs that lead to a lose-lose situation.  2pgs. Cost $1.  added July 23rd

Grounding and the Lower Chakras:  Why it is so important to stay grounded when working with Spirit. Straighten out our wounds in the first three chakras.  2pgs Cost $1. added July 23rd.

(please read the above essays before purchasing the essays below: Understanding of concepts discussed in previous essays is assumed.)

Family System Reinforcement Essays:

Introduction to Family System Reinforcement Essays:  The following essays follow one family, examining interlocking beliefs and outcomes of Dramas. 1pg. Cost Free.  added August 24th

Introduction to the Archetype of the Fan: A description of the Fan, and a Fan's growth through becoming independent of her group.  4pgs. Cost $1.  added Aug. 24th

Healing for the Giving Persona: A description of how the Empath can help the Giving Persona escape the need to please others at the expense of the self. 3 pgs. Cost $1. added Sept. 3rd

The Fan as Parent of Heroes and Empaths: A description of how the Fan reinforces both Hero behavior and Empath behavior, and the typical trouble spots for Empaths trying to understand their Fan parent.  4pgs. Cost $1.  added Aug. 24th

Heroes and Secret Drama and Empath as Secret Witness: A description of Secret Drama, in which Heroes enact their Shadow side by using an Empath as a Secret Witness and Rescuer.  A very dangerous but common role for the Empath.  17 pages. Cost $4. added Aug. 26th.

Couples Work and the Empath: How the Empath can give feedback when her partner is stuck in an old belief system rather than withdrawing or assuming the relationship is over. 5pgs. Cost $2.  added Sept. 3rd.

The Fan and the Empath: Understanding how an unhealthy Fan can become stuck in double binds can help Empaths not take the Fan's behavior personally.  How the Fan values the group more than the individual. 8 pages.  Cost $2. added Aug. 31st.

Dealing with Passive Aggression: A description of passive aggressive behavior and the psychic attack that Empath's will pick up.  How to deal with passive aggressive family members. 2 pages.  Cost $1. Added Aug. 31st

Empath as Colluding Rescuer: The average Empath falls into the Archetypal Role of Rescuer, Colluding with the Agenda of the Group. 2pgs. Cost $1. Added Sept. 4th

Empath as Scapegoat: How and why the Empath tends to be scapegoated within the Family when the Family is invested in not seeing problems.  2 pages. Cost $1.  Added Aug. 31st.

The Guilt and Anger Cycle:  Empaths can become stuck in Internalized Drama when breaking free of the pressure of the family group think.  2pgs. Cost $1.  added Aug. 24th

The Empath, The Hero, and Amplified Emotional Resonance: How the Empath can set up a strong cord to another and feel that other persons emotions.  This becomes amplified when the Empath shares similar beliefs. 4 pgs. Cost $1. added Sept. 9th

Following the Soul's Calling Despite Appearances: How we must give up appearances completely when we commit to our Souls, no matter that it looks as if others are creating what we want.  2 pages. Cost $1. Added Aug. 31st.

Forgiveness and the Drama Triangle: How focusing on Forgivness can keep us trapped on the Drama Triangle.  Focus on healing the wound instead.  2pgs. Cost $1. added Sept. 4th

More Family Reinforcement Essays on the way soon.. 

Coming Soon!

Empaths and Withdrawal

Empaths and being Special

Empaths and Abandonment

Empaths and the Emotional Whirlwind

Empaths and Comparison/Jealousy

The Emotionally Dissociated Hero

Understanding the Relationship between Heros and Empaths

Roleplaying:

The Caretaker

The Spiritual DoGooder

Inviting the Bully:

The Verbally Abusive Bully

Personal Healing work for the Empath

ShadowWork

Understanding Projection

Discernment versus Judgment

The Insecurity and Arrogance Cycle

Healthy Empaths and Healing work

Soul Retrieval Work

Healing Process

Following a Calling

Living with Joy

Living in Abundance

Loving Reality